Choosing the life partner to marry is the most important decision we make in our life. Making the right decision
and choosing the right life partner is our best guarantee for having a joyful relationship, a successful
marriage and a happy family life. Making the wrong decision, and marrying the wrong person, regardless of
what the reasons are and whose fault it is, usually leads into divorce and creates many long term,
emotional, social and financial problems for three generations of our society, the children, the parents and
the grand parents.
Choosing the RIGHT life partner to marry should be based on a HAPPY BALANCE between COMPATIBILITY
and PHYSICAL ATTRACTION. Neither compatibility alone nor physical attractions alone lead into a successful
and lasting marriage. If our choice is based on physical attractions only, our interest in our life
partner will start decreasing as soon as his or her beauty becomes a second nature to us and the problems of
incompatibility make the differences more difficult to cope with. And, if our choice is based on compatibility
only we will always be attracted to people we consider beautiful and attractive and could end up establishing
intimate relationship with such people and break our marriage. It is very important to realize from the
start that successful marriages need both, physical attractions and compatibility and when making our decision
we should be very careful not to compromise this, regardless of what the short term benefits might be.
In addition, we also should understand that we are planning for a long life together, and in this long life
the whole truth about us will come out sooner or later. So, in order not to lose our trust and confidence
in each other we should see to it that we are always totally honest and open with each
other at all times before and after we get married.
Compatibility with a prospective life partner means that the two prospects have similar backgrounds,
similar cultural traditions, similar beliefs and personality traits, similar life styles, similar goals and
ambitions, the right ages, and the right education levels. This is essential because when people reach
adulthood they are what they are and they will not be able to SIGNIFICANTLY change their personalities,
regardless how much they want to and how hard they try. So the more compatible a couple are the less they
will have to fight and compromise about in their married life and the happier their family life will be.
Determining compatibility should be done before the prospects start an INTIMATE RELATIONSHIP. This is
because intimate relationships lead into emotional attachment and could end in incompatible marriages.
Once people develop an intimate relationship, they become emotionally attached to each other and their
judgment and reasoning become mostly wishful thinking and lose their objectivity.
A reasonable approach for choosing the RIGHT life partner to marry is as follows:
1. Join a dating website whose members have similar backgrounds and cultural traditions like yours.
Make sure that such a dating website has thousands of members so you will have a good opportunity to find
many prospects, who are TRULY COMPATIBLE with you.
2. Subscribe so you can view all the posted profiles and be able to search through them using specific
search criteria such as: country, age, physical features, beliefs, personality traits, education level,
goals and ambitions etc…and choose 5 to 10 prospects who are MOST COMPATIBLE with you. Then ask
the management to arrange for you to see recent photos of all the members you chose so you can DELETE those
who you do NOT find ATTRACTIVE to you. This is much better than having your MATCHES picked for you by a
computer from people who have different background and different cultural traditions.
3. Then have Druzedate, using their MATCHING SYSTEM, choose your best two matches out of these prospects
and make the arrangement to introduce you to them at the right time and place.
4. After that, make an agreement with your two matches that you and them will be TOTALLY HONEST
COMPLETELY OPEN with each other in all your communications and at all times.
5. After that,spend as much time with these two prospects as possible and observe your
INTERACTIONS toward each other in different situations and under different circumstances. Take all the time
you need to find out which one is the RIGHT life partner for you to marry.
NOTE:
If at any time before getting married you find out that you should NOT marry that person, discontinue
the relationship IMMEDIATELY and start all over. Remember, we all make mistakes and we should LEARN
from them and do better the next time around. And,it is much easier and better to end an intimate relationship
than it is to go through a divorce later, especially after having children.
The Management